I once did business with and lost around $100k to a woman who was a big-picture visionary, able to see incredible opportunities and create trust with others almost instantly. She did, however, consistently over promise and under deliver, creating an increasingly long line of disgruntled former investors.
When despair was upon her, she would sequester herself to listen to her library of a well-known motivational speaker’s tapes, reappearing again an hour or so later ready once more to take on the world. In doing so, this unconsciously incompetent businesswoman avoided painful self-reflection, replacing it with a large dose of audio fire walking. The way I figure it, the motivational speaker owes me (and no doubt other former associates) about $100k.
Self-reflection can be painful, but pays incredibly large dividends. Avoid it at your (and others’) peril.