The West is becoming an honor / shame culture, in which we honor those whose behavior is in line with our highest values and shame those who do not.
Society is divided, however, with two competing highest values:
- Progressives value freedom above all else, but
- Conservatives value community above all else.
Consider this example: A man leaves his wife and kids for another man.
The progressive response is honor to the man (for bravely and honestly embracing his true identity) and to shame to his wife (for repressing him).
The conservative response is shame to the man (for breaking his promise to his family and destroying its community) and honor to the wife (for seeking to preserve the family unit).